You may be reading this page to get answers to some very important questions:
Who is Bethany? Can she help me?
Does she know what she’s doing?
Here’s a story that I hope will address some of those concerns:
College was my first glimpse into a society outside of the community I grew up in. Through that experience, I got a deeper look at the injustices of our society. I realized I wanted to pursue a career that would allow me to help and connect with others. So I began my path towards becoming a licensed therapist.
I spent a lot of time, while in college and after college, looking for jobs; after all before I could save the world I needed to find a way to pay my bills!
It was during that time that I learned the first of many humbling life lessons: obtaining degrees, submitting resumes, writing cover letters, and going on countless job interviews didn’t necessarily mean that I would land the perfect career or suddenly live the life of my dreams.
Eventually, I found work…on college campuses and in high schools, along with agency and community-based jobs. I was content because I had an impressive title, and based on my employers’ expectation, I was doing a great job. I learned a lot and gained valuable experience. However, in each position, I was limited by rigid policies and overwhelmed with numbers-driven guidelines. Most agencies were stifled by budgets or simply led by profit.
There was a façade of a service-driven mission, but in reality, there was limited compassion. Little impact was made on the majority of clients served.
I repeatedly found myself frustrated and uncomfortable. Before I knew it, my professional life had become an unsettling mix of searching for the jobs I thought I needed while working at jobs that I grew to despise.
I constantly felt incompetent and without purpose. I was working just to say I had a job instead of investing in myself, and putting in the time to pursue my calling.
These feelings spilled over into my personal life leading to unhealthy and toxic relationships. I began to seek attention by looking for validation from others. I settled for less than I knew I was worth because I was so unsure of myself. I was irritable and unpleasant and I did not like who I had become. I knew I needed to take action and make changes.
I was forced, through my discomfort, to begin a vital journey of self-discovery. I was reminded of my initial passions and the times that I was most happy.
I was honest with myself about what I was good at, took an inventory of my talents, and honed my skills.
As I examined the roads and detours of my life, I finally understood that years of feeling uncomfortable in my work and relationships was the best thing that could have happened to me. I grew to be grateful for the bad exes and the disconnected bosses. It was those very relationships that brought on the motivation to undergo transformation and invest in myself.
I made the intentional decision to step into a place where my creativity would never be stifled; a place where the only person that could define my personal value was me.
I’ve made mistakes, and I’ll never be perfect. But I’ve learned a lot, and I know what I’m supposed to be doing with my life. I dedicated my career to being the best at helping others get to this place too.